Nonsensical Relationships

Let’s take a moment and talk about relationships, shall we?  A therapist would probably have a field day with the fact that I still consider my ex’s friends.  I credit that to myself, as I do a good job in choosing them, therefore when we end our relationships, I still like them enough to want to hang out with them from time to time.  Very normal.

I met up with one of my ex’s for a couple of beers recently, because we happened to be within a 50 foot distance of each other.  As much as he completely drives me insane during certain topics of conversation, as soon as we started walking down the street together, I remembered what I like about him.  As he glances into a pizza place where dozens of people sit at stools facing the window, he says “Look at all those fatties, stuffing their fat faces.”  And I crack up.  “What’d you, just smoke pot?”

“No, I think you’re funny.”

Ding ding ding.  It’s those little slivers of funny that draw me to people.  It’s the stupid, random, nonsensical, “I’ve known you forever, so I’ll just say whatever I want” kind of comments that I’m drawn to…laughing is my weakness.  But stupid, random, nonsensical men (who are attractive and have jobs) are surprisingly hard to find.

So we secure a spot at a sports bar down the street, get a couple of beers, and start catching up on life.  We’ve never really completely lost touch, even though we broke up years ago, so it’s nice to get together here and there to shoot the shit, and keep each other in the loop.  As we’re chatting about life and relationships, I tell him, “I went out to dinner with Tyler on Thursday.”


“Just to catch up.”

He rolls his eyes.  “You have really unhealthy relationships.”

“How is that??”

“Why should you be getting together with your ex boyfriend to ‘catch up’?”

“I’m sorry, who are you sitting with right now??!!!!??”

“That’s different.”


“We barely see each other.”

“And WE barely see each other!”


NEXT TOPIC, PLEASE!   Okay, it’s all coming back to me now.  I am reminded about how this stupid, nonsensical, yet attractive person makes my blood boil.

We meet up with his co-worker, and somehow, my blog comes up.  I say, “Hmmmm, you’ve never made an appearance in my blog.”  Ex boyfriend says, “If you had a blog while we were dating, I’d be in BIG trouble…”

Oh yes… yes he would be.

What the heck defines a “healthy relationship,” or an “unhealthy relationship?”  Is it unhealthy to keep in touch with ex’s in between all of the horribly boring dates to remind yourself there actually were a couple of people out in the world that you found yourself compatible with at one time or another?  Anyone with any sort of psychology background might want to jump through the computer screen right now and punch me in the face for seeing nothing wrong with frolicking around with ex boyfriends, laughing at people with cheese dripping down their faces, and having Japanese chefs shoot saki in our mouths over a hibachi dinner.

Am I open to another relationship?  Absolutely.  I just feel like life is too short to waste constantly searching for a person who may or may not exist.  Dare I say that I ENJOY being single?  (I do…sorry).  I’m not willing to give that up for a boring guy in a suit who can’t find humor in something completely NONSENSICAL.  Word of the day.

I’m pretty sure my relationships are just fine.  Or maybe I should go see a therapist.


4 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. courtingadventures
    Feb 15, 2013 @ 13:20:37

    I think we stay in touch with ex’s until something better comes around. It makes us feel good about ourselves, and makes us feel less lonely. It reminds us that at one point someone liked us enough to date us, or we liked that person enough to date them. Either way, we all move on from ex’s as soon as the next guy comes along. And when that relationship ends, and he becomes an ex, he enters the “ex pool” and we start talking to all of our exes, again, until the next guy comes along.


  2. meowlissa
    Feb 15, 2013 @ 14:00:47

    this was very carrie bradshaw of you, but i like it


  3. meowlissa
    Feb 15, 2013 @ 14:02:05

    and i’m happy you are happy being single. and if i wasn’t straight i hope we could be special friends


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